Letter to My Future Successful Self

16 Apr

Dear Successful Future Bria-

      Congrats on all the great stuff that’s come from your hard work! You deserve it. You stuck with it, kept your nose to the grindstone and did every other cliche out there to make things happen. But, have you kept your head on straight?

      Remember to say thank you. If someone gives you a shout out on twitter, how hard is it to tweet them back a thanks? Reviews, good or bad, that person stopped their life to read your book – let them know you appreciate it. Thank people for their time, for their knowledge, for their kindness, for introducing you to someone, for introducing someone to you, for doing anything that furthers your career or supports you. Say thank you often.

      Everything comes full circle. You’re no longer on the new side of the circle. Remember all those wonderful women who took you under their wing and helped you. Remember the day you got your first offer and had four multi-published authors you were able to shoot emails off to — and they responded with amazing advice! Be that person. Give your time. Choose people you can relate to and pass on that knowledge. Keep the writing world a positive place within your sphere.

      Never forget the basics. Writing has foundations and you worked really hard to learn what they were, how to use them, which to ignore and how to build on top of them. Never forget those.

      Learn new tricks. Don’t stop learning them – Remember those authors you *loved* until you glommed the first part of their backlist and realized they kept repeating stories or characters or devices? Don’t do that. Keep learning. Try something new. Challenge yourself. Push your own envelope.

       Be gracious. No matter what level of writing you’re at, there is always someone who wishes they were where you are. Don’t be dismissive of them and their dreams… or your own success. Take the time, be gracious…and don’t forget that thank you.

      Don’t call people out publicly. Chit-chat, blogs, twitter, speeches, whatever. Life is hard. People make mistakes. Some people are just downright mean. Mistakes should be overcome and everyone knows who the mean people are just by watching. Don’t jump into that junk.

      Remember, no one is truly beneath or behind you. Your success may put you in a certain spot today, but nothing is guaranteed. There truly are no “little people” so don’t treat anyone like that. Not only is it rude, but tomorrow they may be the person you’re trying to catch up with.

      Enjoy yourself, but don’t slack. Yes! You’ve earned some relaxation, but staying competitive keeps you in the game. If you want to keep writing, keep working. Let your brain wander to those places you used to love. Embrace those mind-trips as a pleasure, not a job… but take notes.

      Remember who your heroes are. They will let you down as often as they inspire you. Don’t be discouraged or hateful about that. We’re all someone’s hero, try to be good at it.

      Never stop investing in: your money, your self, those around you. It’s only by continuing to invest that your world grows.

      But most of all, don’t stop enjoying life. It’s an adventure. You’ve had bad times, you learned from them — sometimes even enjoyed them. You’ve had good times, and you enjoyed those too — sometimes even worried about them. But both — and everything in between — is all part of the whole. All there to embrace. Love it all, pass it on and never forget who you are and that this is your journey.

      Now, get back to work. That best seller isn’t going to write itself.


Not Quite Successful Bria


Don’t be afraid to be silly. People seem to like it when you are. Yeah, I don’t get it either.

13 Responses to “Letter to My Future Successful Self”

  1. Shadow April 16, 2010 at 10:32 am #

    people like it when you are silly, but even more when you are yourself.

    Good luck!

  2. Katrina Williams April 16, 2010 at 10:34 am #

    You’re philosophical this morning. I’m trying to do that too, but about real life…Interestingly enough, I see you the way you seem to be telling yourself to be. You’ve been very supportive of me and my career. You’ve never been too busy for me and I appreciate you!

    All in all, the thoughts are sound and I’ll be rereading them occasionally to remind myself of them as well – once I’m further along. Thanks for sharing.

  3. briaq April 16, 2010 at 10:35 am #

    Awww thanks Katrina 🙂

    I should futureme that puppy for like 5 years out LOL

    Thanks Shadow – Silly is always good (well, in my book)

  4. Chantal Kirkland April 16, 2010 at 10:41 am #

    This is so cute. Come back and read it in a year–see if you did this or if the rules changed.

    I wish I could give similar advice to my past self (like in high school). Too bad time doesn’t work that way!

  5. briaq April 16, 2010 at 10:45 am #

    I should post it on my fridge (you know, if i *had* a fridge) and look at it every day. Keep a marker next to it and add on! Maybe when I get a place I can do that 🙂

    Oh yeah, and Dear High School Self: When Kevin asks you if you’re going to the prom, don’t say “I was thinking of skipping it” because he’s working up the nerve to ask you… or so says his best friend later you idiot!

  6. Chantal Kirkland April 16, 2010 at 10:53 am #

    Yeah. Or Reagan. ‘Cause when he asked HS Chantal if she had a date to the prom and she said ‘I wish’ and brushed past him because she was so embarrassed, she TOTALLY missed that boat. And going with nice-boy Reagan would have been a WAY better plan than going with bad-boy Brad. Ouch. HS me was such an idiot.

  7. briaq April 16, 2010 at 10:54 am #

    OMGosh! That totally made me snort — bad boys = bad plans = bad ideas… but maybe a fun time at the prom hopefully!

  8. Jamie Harrington April 16, 2010 at 11:44 am #

    You. Kick. Ass.

  9. briaq April 16, 2010 at 11:49 am #

    ~~lol~~ thanks! You know, when i’m HUGE, I’ll need the reminder *snort*

  10. Gwen Hayes April 16, 2010 at 1:11 pm #

    Dear Future Successful Bria,


    Future Successful Gwen

  11. Jess April 16, 2010 at 1:23 pm #

    Dear Future Jess:

    You know this already, but if you weren’t enough then, you won’t be now. You’re going to be just as insecure. That’s okay. Stay nice and [all the things Bria told her Future Self].

    Present Jess

  12. briaq April 16, 2010 at 1:51 pm #

    You can do it – Overcoming insecurity is something we all do!

  13. Trinity Faegen May 5, 2010 at 1:11 am #

    Dear Right Now Bria-
    You’re a peach!

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