There’s a lot as a writer you don’t share on your blog — well, there’s a lot you don’t share on your blog as a writer if you understand the idea of a writing career. This may be your workplace watercooler, but use some common sense, right? Even to your work friends, you don’t tell company secrets.
So, as the agent search continues (to the “bafflement” of one of my readers – thanks for the pep talk & the great word) there’s a TON I don’t share here. It would be unwise, unprofessional and unkind. But, I’ve had several people email that they’re following my agent search and curious how things are a going.
So, lets look at somethings in broad strokes. I don’t share bad news. Why? Because, you know if I said, I’ve been rejected 1,278 times (hyperbole anyone?) for Markbearer, and an agent looks at that, she’s going to think, “So, I’m at least #1,279 and no one else wanted her.” Plus, who wants to focus on the negative? Continuing on that thought: There are tons of agents I had no idea even existed in the beginning so they weren’t on my first, small mailing but might now be top top top choices. As my research continues (constantly) so does my agent search evolve.
On the other side of that, I also don’t share good news. You probably are think, “Hey, I totally get the not sharing bad news. But good news?” Again, imagine along with me. I announce I got a Full Request. Dancing in the streets, right? Well, if I don’t share the bad news, people would assume the full turned into bad news or wonder what happened or ponder my dropping the ball in sending it….you know just generally wonder. This week, I got a rejection (more on those later) and some encouraging news.
Why am I not sharing the encouraging news? (You people ask “why” a lot, huh?) Well, it was feedback that potentially could open my series up to a whole new world of ideas, but it may not be viable and it’s one person’s opinion. I thought it was great and encouraging, but one person’s opinion (unless they are currently making it happen for you) is still one person’s opinion. That person may suggest something and still not want to/be able to be the person who works their magic for you. And the person who ends up working with you may not agree. Vague enough for you?
But, one of the most interesting things I’ve found is that my feeling toward the agent search often more clearly reflect my own expectations than the reality we live in. I’ve found that, my expectations are often so far off the mark as to be funny — ok, not funny ha-ha. The odd thing about this is, if you’re playing along at home, you know that I have a job where being able to call how things are going to go in a company is vital – and I’m good at it. So, I’ll share my expectations and thoughts about the agent hunt and querying now. Less vague, but don’t get your hopes up
- Cold Querying – just the letter OR letter, synopsis & pages (any combination)
- Form rejection is totally ok
- Surprised how many people don’t paste a form rejection in and hit send when they read your query
- Don’t understand how some agents (this is a no names post, so don’t get excited) can not only not respond to your query, but also not have a system to let you know he/she received it. I’ve seen a couple friends get some harsh emails back after sending follow-up notes that were polite. One almost word for word said, “If I wanted it you would have heard from me” and he didn’t even sign it
For this reason, I love form rejections and embrace them. I thank every agent who has a little word file and just keeps it on her word clipboard and pastes it in. Even if it’s as simple as “Not for me.” It’s a wonderful feeling after the initial hit to know where you stand and to put it behind you. Like a guy saying, you’re nice and I like hanging out with you, but not to date. Ouch, but thanks for not leading me on!
- Query off a pitch – letter, synopsis & pages (any combination)
- We’ve discussed my work for 8 mins to an hour (yes, I’ve hung out with agents for over that time. They’re often very fun people too!)
- I have the exception set by the amount of time invested.
- If I sat and had a standard quick pitch and sent you pages, I’d expect the typical form letter, plus a line. Nothing big – just why something that you were able to ask me about wasn’t what you thought it would be. No big insight expected, but something that gives minimal insight into the pass
- If we talked at length, a line or two – some true insight
- No response is unacceptable to me on this one – but fairly common so I better start working on that expectation
- Requested Partial off a Query
- I expect some response
- I’ve come to expect a form letter – I’m ok with that
- The agent’s who have gone beyond that have my heartfelt thanks
- An agent once responded that she enjoyed the partial, loved my voice & description but saw a flaw in my synopsis that made her pass. She even mentioned that she’s assuming she read the synopsis wrong and my story wasn’t what she was guessing from the synopsis. That was correct and I made the necessary changes to my synopsis and had a pint of ice cream over missing an opportunity because of a synopsis blip. BUT, the feedback was invaluable and that rejection ranks as one of my favorites.
- Partials the agent would only take after sending it snail mail
- I understand the virus fear. It’s valid, I get that. I don’t even mind sending things snail mail. OK. Enough said
- I do expect, that if I’ve paid to send you a query and then paid to send you pages and paid to have them sent back, you could write a one liner on your form rejection letter
- Haven’t seen that happen yet, so I’m trying to restructure my expectations on this one… It isn’t going well
- Requested Fulls
- I cannot believe that agent’s send out the same form letter to a Requested Full as they do to a Cold Query. This is the only one I can’t seem to find forgivable. When they read the partial and requested the full, I believe the author earned the right to hear a small snippet of why they were being passed on by that agent – I’m not talking a page explanation. What is the one main reason? You didn’t like the story, the plot was weak, it fell apart toward the ends, the writing was unimaginative, etc.
I’ve had a couple fulls go out (and some out now) and I’ve seen the query form rejection (compared to someone who cold queried and got rejected) and I’ve seen a wonderful rejection that was standard but with one sentence telling me why she passed. This is also one of my favorite rejections as it backed up what I’d been wanting to do, but “They” (those “they” people who always talk about the “rules” grrrr) said wouldn’t fly in the fantasy world of today.
- Website Expectations
- I love websites that list what the author’s expectations should be. If you set a standard on your website, please follow it. If you say, please give us (insert reasonable time) to get back to you….please get back to me. Please don’t be offended by my following up in month 3 if your website says you respond to everyone within 2 months.
I do understand that agents get horrible letters back, those “Yeah, but….” letters. WRITERS – STOP THAT! “Yeah, but” your friends, but let the agents do their job. No one ever hired anyone because they fought them on something. All your doing is getting yourself put on the auto-reject list for that agency (and their friends….and their friends’ friends….) Once again, writing is a career. If you don’t think you’d do it at work, don’t even consider doing it in your writing life. Agent’s are the enemy — they’re a potential partner. Treat them as such.
Like I said, these were/are my expectations. I’m finding they aren’t always close to the reality. I’m also finding that the things that make me the most frustrated are the things I couldn’t see coming. In a world where the query letter and it’s author are expected to be 100% professional, I’ve been shocked by some of the rejection letter horror stories I’ve heard from my colleagues (oh, and I have one myself. No. You can’t hear it, didn’t you read the paragraph right above this one?) Overall, I’ve had a remarkably positive experience querying my work. The horror stories I was led to believe were the norm, aren’t – and the people have been mostly kind and responsive. But, expectations should be set correctly and behavior modified for the industry – just like any other job.
Remember: Be professional. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Treat everyone with kindness —- even if you have to vent to your best friend over Chunky Monkey.